I began ChurchLead in 2002 to provide consulting and information to church leaders to help them become more effective in achieving their mission. Most church leaders know what they want to accomplish, but they often need some help to successfully navigate the waters with so many competing technology tools and systems.
The methods have changed over the past few years, but the essence of the original mission remains the same. To help leaders use the right technology, at the right time, in the right way, to accomplish their mission.
I recently spoke to a group of parents about some practical ways to keep their families safe online. The information below is from my handout. I have also created a parent reference page on my site with links to some good information.
Background Information
Immigrants & Natives
In his book, Carpe Mañana, Leonard Sweet compares the challenge of adults born before 1962 sharing Christ with people born after that year to immigrants trying to communicate with natives. He calls people born after 1962, "A.C." (after computers) and natives to today's culture. Those born before 1962 are "B.C." (before computers) and immigrants.
This culture uses a different language than ours. We will either use our kids as interpreters, or we will learn the language ourselves. I think that this is a deliberate decision that we have to make as parents.
A Targeted Generation
Teenagers subjected to hundreds of discrete forms of advertisement each day. Why? Because they have the most discretionary money. Not only that, they are relatively easy to influence.
View “Merchants of Cool” which is a documentary from a few years ago. It really opened my eyes.
No Absolute Truth
In a recent study, the Barna Research Group revealed a stunning statistic that continues to reverberate throughout the evangelical world. Only 9 percent of professing Christians have a biblical worldview.
Why is this important? This is important because most people don't really believe that God is the author and arbiter of truth. Once we put ourselves into the equation of determining right from wrong, then we have opened the door wide open to relative truth. If this happens, the collective society gets to redefine truth as they see fit.
Take a look at information from the Truth Project on this topic.
Basic Checklist
Set your search engine settings to filter content
Update your firewall/anti-virus/malware/spyware software
Run the updates to your operating system
Set a limited-rights user account for each child and configure their internet home page
Utilize Internet Controls (I recommend Safe Eyes)
Filtering and Monitoring and Accountability
Software or Hardware
Content & Time
Consider your computer environment
Keep computers in a common room
Position the screen to be visible to all
Establish house rules (Covenant)
Acceptable and non-acceptable websites
Rules for IM, texting, gaming, social networking, information sharing etc…
E-mail - Don't invite trouble with poor practices.
Social Media - (Facebook, Twitter, MySpace, gaming, texting, chat rooms etc...)
Work to understand social networking
Understand that social network tools are a valid and lasting form of communication
Understand "Virtual Presence" and modern peer pressure
Learn to understand the language of the “natives”
Age appropriateness
Monitor activity and enforce rules of engagement
Make sure your kids understand
Internet information is forever.
There is NO anonymity on the internet!
Social networking companies DO NOT have your best interests at heart.
I have been intrigued by the advertising campaign of Microsoft's new search engine called "Bing!". It is billed as a cure for the confusing task of searching the internet and it's amazingly varied pieces of information. They claim to be the "world's first decision engine". I agree that the internet can be dizzying at times and it has a way of putting together different content items that have no business together. It is a stream of consciousness to be sure and it makes perfect sense that we need a way to help us make decisions. Check out a recent add.
Now, here is my point. I think that real life is more complicated than the internet and there is no doubt that we need a decision engine to help us along the way. But I really doubt that Microsoft has the best engine for me to use to make decisions. What is needed is a Biblical worldview where God is the arbiter of absolute truth. In 2003 the Barna Research Group released a study that indicated that less than 10% of people in America process decisions with a Biblical world view. This is a staggering statistic! This did not happen overnight, but gradually over the past few decades society has shifted toward a relative truth decision engine where everyone is supposed to make decisions that are right for them.
As a parent, I am impressed that I need to teach my kids that God needs to be the filter by which all decisions should be made. It is a matter of helping them to see that the world routinely lies to them when it says that there is no absolute truth. I don't know how parents can possibly make consistent decisions when the standard of truth is a shifting line. I have to admit that it is very easy to fall into a pattern of making decisions based on worldly standards. It is always a relief to remember that I don't have to determine what is right in a certain situation. All I have to do is apply God's truth to the situation and remain consistent in my response.
So perhaps Microsoft is onto something after all. We definitely need a decision engine. We just need to use the right one. I kind of doubt that this angle will appear in any of their ads!
